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Thursday, December 24, 2009

Ho Ho Ho

a storm has just broken out here in durban and what a wonderful way to spend my christmas eve, at home with a lovely cooked dinner, good company and some feel good dvds and maybe some wine. Spent most of the day just doing the last bit of christmas shopping, not much to buy, but the stores were packed. then also did some work on my little baby car, it is a collectors item and am really enjoying it, and now time to unwind and relax.
To everyone out there celebrating Christmas, hope you all have a wonderful and safe evening filled with plenty joy and happiness! hugs! Ty. x

Thursday, December 3, 2009

Lotto fun…

We are all allowed to dream…

If I won the lotto, I would have a lot of fun, wouldn’t we all want to though? 
Endless holidays and fun in the sun all year around. I would of course invest a huge portion of the capital so that I can live off the interest to maintain this newly acquired lifestyle.

Just imagine, from the city holidays where the shopping and partying never ends to coastal holidays where you just laze around bathing in the sun and spending hours in the spas.
I would spoil the people around me, ensure that they all benefit from these holidays too. : -)
Boredom will not get the better of me, and this I will make sure of… Whoever the person might be booking the holidays will have strict instruction not to have any of the same, each holiday a total different experience!

I would spend some of the money on a house or two, a car or two, but I see no need for over indulging in that… Maybe spoil some close family and friends with some new wheels! I would love to put endless smiles on their faces.

On a serious note I have a soft spot for animals, and I would invest in our wildlife funds.

There is of course plenty more to do, more than what I can think of and I am sure that in due time I would have an endless list of things I would want to do.

Okay, so back to reality…

This evening after a good session at the gym we are heading off to attend the opening of a new club called 604 in Pietermaritzburg, two close friends of ours will be on the decks. It will be an early night though as I am off car hunting tomorrow, STILL! If only I could win the lotto… I also plan on spending some time on the beach and in the shops, Christmas shopping here I come!


I have signed up with Club Republic, a promotions agency and will be doing some promoting for British American Tobacco over the weekend, Saturday night at Bean Bag Bohemia.
Oh yeah, and having my hair done Saturday afternoon, it needs a trim...

Hope you all have a wonderful weekend!

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

Give people the benefit of the doubt…

I have been going thru quite a rough time at the moment, and I came across this in my emails this morning and thought I would share it with you.

You are the only person who can determine your own happiness. You may be tempted to blame others for your unhappiness, like feeling upset because someone was rude to you or someone did not treat you fairly. There will always be people or incidences that open the door for offense… You have a choice. You can either choose to be offended, or you can choose to give people the benefit of the doubt and decide to overlook offenses.

For example, I have a friend who was supposed to meet another friend for lunch, but the woman never showed up and my friend wasn't able to reach her by phone. I saw my friend later that day, and I could tell she was upset about it. She thought the woman's actions were inconsiderate.  She told me, "I can't believe her! It's as if she doesn't think my time is as important as hers." The next day, my friend got a call from the woman she was supposed to have lunch with. "I'm so sorry!" she said. "Right as I was about to leave for our lunch appointment, I received a call that my mother was in a terrible car accident and rushed to the emergency room. I was so flustered I forgot to take my cell phone and figured I could call you from the hospital. But by the time I got there, I was so overwhelmed seeing my mother in such critical condition, talking to doctors, and watching monitors—I completely forgot!" My friend immediately forgave her and was so sorry for not giving her the benefit of the doubt.

It all comes down to this: If you want other people to give you grace, then you must choose to extend grace to other people. I love what author and speaker Tim Hansel often says, "Give people a break because everybody you meet today is carrying a heavy load."  And that's true. We don't know what people are dealing with in their personal lives, but we need each other to encourage and strengthen one another.

Don't allow offense to drive a wedge in your relationships. Assume the best of others and choose to give people the benefit of the doubt instead of drawing conclusions.

Monday, October 26, 2009

What a wonderful relaxed weekend!

This weekend which has passed was one of the most relaxed ones I have had in ages! It was really needed and has certainly paid off.
I feel energized and ready for this week ahead! I also had the chance now to reflect on many things going on in my life… and things look clearer.

Anyhow, we started off with the plan of servicing my car on the Saturday and installing a new shower door, however, we got so relaxed that we did not do these things… instead…
Friday evening we did dinner and a movie at home, we were in bed by 9pm!
Saturday we slept in, I got up and made a lovely breakfast and then we headed out to run a few errands and then found ourselves at Sun Coast Casino beach tanning with a couple of friends. Nick, Eugene, Sam and Scott, you guys are awesome : -)
We then all split up in our different directions and I took Jared for dinner at Wilsons Wharf, we spotted one of the Microsoft Boss’s HUGE yacht, the thing looks like a cruise liner…

Sunday we headed up the coast to Bean Bag Bahia, an awesome restaurant in Umhloti, love it there and spent the afternoon having a couple of drinks and eats with some friends, Andrew! You are the most entertaining person I have ever come across and I hope to have many more laughs with you!

I then made dinner for myself, Jared and a mate Eugene, I made a chicken casserole type dish thing and if I may say so myself, it was delish! A couple of glasses of wine down the line and we hit the sack!

All in all I give my weekend a good solid 10/10!

Friday, October 23, 2009

One of the hardest weeks of my life…


This week has been a tough week. Emotionally draining and exhausting. From not knowing where I am in life, who I am and where I want to be.

The tears, sweat and blood has caused a lot of pain, but in some strange way has made me stronger, and I feel more confident about my relationship and has got me more focused on what I want to achieve.

I took a step back and took a “TY” moment and I reflected on what I have achieved, what I have in life and who I am and what I am grateful for. I reflected on everything positive that has ever happened to me, the happy times I have had in my relationship, the happy times I have had with my family…

I think we need this in our lives, we need times which forces you to reflect on what you have and what you are grateful for.

We get too caught up in our current situations, in our current everyday lives, our jobs and people around us. We forget to reflect and look back at the good things and the things we should be grateful for.

I urge you to take a moment, a ‘Mike’ moment, or a ‘John’ or ‘Mary’ moment and reflect on what you are grateful for in life. Don’t just do it once, but do it every day. Your outlook on life becomes a positive one, especially when you are down in the dumps.


Friday, October 16, 2009

Roger Saint Shoot 2009


Photographer: Ryan Stewart of RS Images
Model: Tyrone Nell
Designer: Roger Saint of Sainty Boy
Hair: Jeans Hair Salon
Lighting: Martin Grondein
Behind the Scenes: Nic Billington

The location for this shoot was at  stables in the Hillcrest area here in Durban, with rings and stables, lots of trees, sand and an old tractor, the stage was set.  With perfect sunny weather and an awesome crew we started the shoot off.

For me this shoot was going to be a little different as it involved wearing clothes! Ha! You laugh, it is the first one I have done since having the “make over” which did not involve underwear!

With a backdrop of brown hay barrels in an old shed, we started taking our first couple of shots. Nic Billington recorded the behind the scenes footage which takes you thru each scene, I am looking forward to seeing the video.

We then moved to a horse trailer and a wooden fence. This provided a beautiful backdrop of fields and horses grazing and a very different shot.

Moving down to the rings where there were a couple of horses standing around, I did not even think twice about getting closer and climbing thru the fence to get to them, with the rest of the crew following thru we soon noticed that one of the horses was not to keen on having us around. I watched my back and left the ring on the opposite side, giggling at Ryan and the rest still watching their backs.

There was this little cat following us around as well, like a dog and it was very comfortable around the horses and seem to be the aggressive horse’s best friend! We took a couple of shots with me sitting on their drinking bath’s, literally an old bath, posing alongside the cat! With the horse in the back ground, I think this was an awesome shot. : -)

We then moved to where the riders practice their jumps, and I got all down and dirty in the sand, it was quite hot, I mean the sun buggers!

We then moved to the stables at the top of the yard, which was perfect. With some riding gear on hand and an awesome backdrop inside the stables we shot some very cool shots.

All in all and as usual, I rate this shoot another 10/10 and a great addition to my portfolio!



 

 


Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Positive expectancy



This week has been a good week so far. The weekend was a good one and a pretty chilled one. Of course we popped in at Traxx after the lounge on Friday evening, but for the rest of the weekend we spent some quality time together and did some work around the house.

There are many things I want to accomplish in life, many goals I have set out for myself, short term and long term and a truly believe I will accomplish these goals. There is something called positive expectancy which I am learning now at work, and although I have implemented it a little in my own life without even realizing it, I would like to focus on it a bit more.
It is the attitude you need to adopt and maintain, you must expect things to happen and your expectations must be positive.
Firstly you need to vividly imagine, imagine what it is that you want to achieve.
Secondly you must desire, with vivid imagination of your goals your desire will become more directed towards those goals
Thirdly you need to sincerely believe in your ability and worthiness to attain your goals
And fourth you must enthusiastically act, this will bring imagination, desire and belief into reality.

You must plan the action that will see your goals accomplished, making use of appropriate short range goals. You must plan for the obstacles you are to come across and see them as opportunities for creativity and as challenges to your desire and belief.

I leave you with this this week, it is something I am going to be focusing on.

Ty

Friday, October 9, 2009

An elaboration on my training routine…

 
Firstly I am lucky because I have a wonderful man who assists me with my training, it is always good to train in pairs to help with motivation and also to assist with the heavier weights. You do not want those heavy weights coming down on you and you will find that when you have some back up you will push heavier.

You need a goal when it comes to training, you need to know what it is that you want to get out of your training. Do you want to put on muscle or lose the fat? Do you just want to maintain what you have or do you just want to be fit? Do you want to bulk up big or trim?

My training routine might not be suitable for you, it depends on your own needs, and your own goal and then also your body type.
My goal with my training routine is to put on good muscular weight and to maintain the weight, I also want to be ripped. Then also to maintain a constant level of fitness and health.

Some basics we stick to are:
-          Use heavy weights; you need to shock the body into thinking it needs to grow.
-          We use machines as well as free weights, but free weights are better;
-          We train less than an hour a day and about 4 to 5 times a week.
-          We change our work outs, thus preventing the muscle getting use to the same training.

Always keep in mind that you actually are not building the muscle when you are training it, you are simply breaking the muscle down and preparing it to grow when you are resting. Rest is one of the most important things when it comes to your training! You need to give the muscle time to repair itself, thus building itself.

You need to push heavy weights, you need to push weights your body is not use to pushing, if you are pushing weights with ease, then it is not working. You need to overload. Your body will then start to adapt and will increase its strength to accommodate the weight, then also allowing you to break down the muscle more so that you can build more. Basically you give the body a workout it is not use to and it will respond with increase in strength.

You need and should fit in Chest, Back, Legs and arms into your weekly training program and should train these groups using free weights, gravitation makes it more intense.
Chest, Back and legs release the maximum amount of testosterone which is an anabolic hormone.

Measure yourself about every two weeks, not every day! You should measure your weight, chest, arms and waist.

It will also be good for you to add in some cardio, about three times a week or some aerobic exercises. This will increase your muscular endurance.

You can do a 3 day to a 5 day training week.
We generally train 4 days a week.

You need to start each muscle group off by doing a warm up set, or at least two warm up sets, this will be a set with very low weights.

Day 1:
Legs:
Squats,                                                 3 sets of 12; 10; 8 reps to failure
Leg Press,                                            3 sets of 12; 10; 8 reps to failure
Leg curl,                                               3 sets of 12; 10; 8 reps to failure
Calf raises,                                          3 sets of 12; 10; 8 reps to failure

Day 2:
Chest:
Flat Bench Press,                3 sets of 10,8 8 reps to failure
Incline Bench Press,           3 sets of 10,8 8 reps to failure
Dumbbell Flys,                   3 sets of 10,8,8 reps to failure


Shoulders:
Barbell Shoulder Press,        3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure
Lateral Raises,                   3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure
Bent-over Dumbbell Laterals, 3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure


Abs:
Abdonimal Crunches, or leg raises or incline sit ups, 5 sets and rep to failure

Day 3:
Rest

Day 4:
Back:
Lats Pull downs,                  3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure
T-Bar Rows,                      3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure
Deadlifts,                          3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure
Shrugs,                                      

Forearms:
Wrist Curls,                             3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure
Reverse Wrist Curls,           3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure


Day 5:
Arms:
Biceps:
Standing Barbell Curls,           3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure
Seated Dumbbell Curls,         3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure


Triceps:
Bench Dips,                       3 sets to failure
Triceps Pull downs,             3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure


Forearms
Wrist Curls,                             3 sets of 10,8, 8 reps to failure

Abs:
Abdonimal Crunches, or leg raises or incline sit ups, 5 sets and rep to failure

Day 6:
Rest


Day 7:
Rest

It is vitally important to fuel your body before your work out. Eat a mixture of high quality proteins and some simple carbohydrates 30 minutes before you hit the gym and after your workout you need to eat again. Eat a high carbohydrate, moderate protein meal within 1 hours of your workout. You must eat in the first hour after training, it is the golden hour!

Good luck to those who are working out!



Peaceful living

Written by: My good friend CZ in PE

It all begins with a choice. We simply choose to be happy and successful, then we follow it up with study, which brings in nutrition for the body and food for thought.  Naturally exercise and daily healthy routines are part of it. It really is a simple matter of choice.

There are many, many ways we can turn a bad situation into a good one.  We can turn bad days, bad weeks, months and bad years into GREAT days, weeks, months, years. We can be successful, happy, live peacefully and full of energy.

We simply choose to be happy and successful. Then we follow it up with study, which brings in nutrition for the body and food for thought.  Naturally exercise and daily healthy routines are part of it. It really is a simple matter of choice.

Whether you are living with a lover, friends, strangers or family, getting on peacefully is important. When you live on your own you don’t have to take into consideration the thoughts and feelings of others around you and you can do what you want. However, living alone can be quite lonely, and it is likely you will live with others at some point in your life.

If you are living with others, then it doesn’t have to be all arguments and fights. There are plenty of advantages to living with house mates. You have constant company, you can share work between you, and gain encouragement and support when you need it.

Of course, there are downsides too. You have to share your space with others, and your privacy can be limited. It is inevitable that you will get on each other’s nerves at some point, and disagreements will probably occur. However, this stress can be avoided and reduced if you follow a few simple tips on how to live peacefully with your house mates.

Communication is the key

The first and most important thing you need to work on when living with others is communication. Without good communication with each other, you and your house mates will argue far more. You need to take care of your responsibilities and duties within the house, and communicate with each other about the duties of others.

If you are considerate and set firm boundaries then you will all get on well. To start the process, you should talk about your needs, likes, dislikes and expectations. This will give you all an idea of what is expected and will get communication channels open. It also gives everyone the opportunity to avoid confrontations as you already have an idea of what each other likes and dislikes.

You should also discuss some rules and boundaries to follow. Things such as preparing meals, shopping, bills, cleaning and social rules should all be talked about. This way you all know the way in which you should behave to avoid problems. As long as you continually communicate and go over these ground rules from time to time should be able to live peacefully with your house mates.

In case of disputes

Despite the best of intentions, it is unlikely that you will always be able to avoid disputes with your house mates. However, there are ways you can reduce the impact and severity of these arguments. Firstly, have a schedule set out for getting ready in the morning in terms of shower and bathroom usage. Many disputes occur when people rush around trying to get to work and are stressed. If you set out rules for this in the first place then you can avoid or lessen conflicts in this area.

However, if an argument does occur, try and remember that you have to live with this person after it is over. Recognise that you are both stressed and try to diffuse the situation. If there are problems, you can discuss them later when you are both calmer rather than saying things you will both regret.

If you can learn to appreciate and respect your house mates and their differences then you will get on better. They may have different habits and routines to your own, but if you can see their good side you will avoid many arguments.

Living with others isn’t easy, but if you take the time to listen and communicate with each other about any possible problems, you will get on more peacefully and hopefully have a great time living with your house mates.

How to live life well:

1. Live life peacefully: The amount of conflict and violence in the world is appalling to say the least.  In response to this, all decent people undoubtedly want wars and hatred to end, and the first step to this is to stop contributing to the state of human violence by living peacefully ourselves.  There are deeper and wider meanings to conflict, in which "what should be" conflicts with "what is", but here it is a simpler thing - which is just to live at peace with everything and everybody around us.  That is the starting point.

Peaceful living softens the heart and teaches us how to diffuse our reactive nature so that we can become masters of our emotions.  When the winds of conflict start to stir within, if you can remember your determination to live peacefully, it will lead you to becoming conscious and awake during such tumultuous times.  Once conscious, you will be able to retain your composure and act intelligently, instead of becoming a slave to the storm of feelings conflict evokes.  This ability to witness the ways of the ego and emotions, puts you on the path to awakening.

2. Live life honestly: The road to enlightenment is a path of negation.  This is a very crucial understanding in order to make the right progress.  What this essentially means, is when all that is false is taken away, what remains is your true, non-dual, already perfect nature.  You are the substratum on which the game of life is being played out, and to encounter this timeless aspect of yourself, you need to shed all the masks you have put on.  For that your have to learn how to live life honestly.

This is not as easy as it may sound initially.  To live honestly you will have to shatter many images of yourself that you hold dear and face many aspects of who you are, which will downright appall and even disgust you.  But this cleansing, this dying of our many false selves is a necessary part of the process.  Real honestly leads to real simplicity and innocence, which is essential for walking this path to your natural self.

To work on yourself, you have to first see things as they are, even if they are a mess.  This is the first step and as your understanding deepens, you will come to realize that the way to break through is to totally accept the actuality of "what is", without any attempt to change or escape it.  A prerequisite for such action is brutal honesty.  The mind is a master at deception and the practice of honesty in all forms is the beginning of clarity.

3. Live life with order: One great advantage that monks and yogis have when they live in an ashram or monastery, is that their lives have great order.  This structured living then helps them establish internal order and helps them establish a strong spiritual practice.  So try to adopt some of these aspects into your life as well and therefore benefit from such structure as the monks and yogis do.

The more such order emerges from your passion and your practice the more natural and effective it will be.  Allow your practice to thus shape your life and structure your days so that you can move forward systematically and gracefully.  Generally, you will find setting up a consistent time for your practice, waking up early, getting proper exercise, eating healthy, spending time in nature and other such wholesome activities becoming a natural part of your life as you progress.

Small things you do will matter also.  Cleanliness, simplicity, balance, promptness, diligence, thoughtfulness will all start to emerge as you put your life in order.  Also, order does not mean an absence of spontaneity.  Being simple and making time for leisure will promote spontaneity, as will living in the moment, with honesty.  So start to organize yourself and your time and get your life in order.  You will be pleasantly surprised by how much this will help you in your personal as well as spiritual growth.

So how to live life in order to begin the great adventure to enlightenment?  Live peacefully, honestly and with great order, and surely you will find yourself on the path to awakening and self-realization.

Thursday, October 8, 2009

I need to get this off my chest today!







To the three guys on the M4 traveling from Durban to Durban North this morning, you guys are the biggest idiots and next time you knock on my window I will knock on your head! Not only did you put my life at danger, but you put every other person’s life in danger in the vicinity you were driving in.


You guys were swerving thru the traffic, speeding up and then slowing down, taking over in the yellow lane and almost bringing some cars to complete standstill because of your idiotic behavior! To the guy that swerved in between my car and the car next to me and nearly ending up on my front wheel, that is your own stupid fault! Then to your mate who drove rite up to my car after this and knocks on my window because I now must be careful and watch my driving, I was concerned for your safety, once again because of you and your mates stupid  and idiotic behavior! No brains I tell you!


Seriously people! Start using the roads more responsibly! Think logically when making decisions! Don’t be so dumb!


What I experience this morning was the driving of three dumb men! Probably on an ego trip, an ego trip which could have put quite a few people in hospital! THINK MAN!


Anyhow, I needed to get that off my chest.
*Now Ty will have a jolly good day and walk off like he does in the pic*
x


Wednesday, October 7, 2009

Modeling…




I have always dreamt of being a host on a television show or acting out in a very well known soap or a major movie.

When in standard 5, or grade 7 rather, I took a slight interest into modeling and started attending modeling classes. I was based in a very small town and there were zero opportunities really, these classes did not last long either and eventually I left when I moved town.

In Matric, my final year of school, I landed a spot on a local soap opera as an extra, this was a big deal for me and was very exciting and it ignited something inside me, from this point on I started chasing a dream.

I went over to London for 8 months after school. While working in London I did a lot of research on the industry and saw agencies and people involved in the industry, I did not yet feel ready to go into modeling and I was not self confident at all, so I dreamt on… I did see the opportunity though and saw that modeling could be a stepping stone into television.

While in London I saw a couple of agencies, did a couple of small shoots and very quickly realized that the industry is full of sharks and you really had to know what you were doing in order to survive. Small time agencies and modeling schools are the ones most likely to take you for a ride.

I returned to Pretoria, South Africa and started varsity, at the same time I went to see O models Africa who referred me to 3D models in Johannesburg and this is where it all started for me. I was very dedicated to the agency and saw them at least 3 times a week and I went to every casting that was passed my way. Each casting was a learning experience, each casting I attended I made the most of and spoke to as many people as possible, to get more insight into the industry and how it all works. Although I landed some big jobs which included television adds, fashion shows and editorial shoots, it did not feel like it was all going good, but I persisted. I also maintained a strict training program at the gym, but it was not working for me and I knew there was a lot that I needed to do to improve myself, and this included a change in my confidence!

I moved down to Durban about a year or so later and then started to freelance, which was good for me and I have picked up a lot of experience and knowledge in the industry. I have had the opportunity to meet a lot of people who are very involved in the industry and meet other models. With this being said I also improved on my body and in turn my confidence grew. Remember, there is a difference between confidence and vanity.

Sadly models are never open about their careers, and can be quite selfish in that respect, so not a lot of knowledge was gained from them, however, I thank the few which have assisted me in the past.

My journey is still not over though, I am still looking at making it big, and I know one day I will. The next step is signing with an international firm in Cape Town this month and then letting them run with me. It is an exciting journey, a tough one but well worth it.

It is my stepping stone to many greater things!

Monday, October 5, 2009

The weekend has come and gone…


Friday afternoon came and I was a little bummed that I was not going to make JHB Pride with my mates, as far as I hear it went down very well and Johannesburg has made us proud.

My weekend started out on Friday evening, a nice chilled dinner and then ended off at Traxx nightclub which for a Friday evening was buzzing here in Durban, headed off to Moyo at Ushaka for cocktails with some awesome friends, was great seeing Anastasia, Sheldon, Shane and Octo again, we rocked the bar… : -) The music was great…

I needed to get some rest before the next party started on Saturday evening, so Jared and I headed home to chill and catch up on some sleep…

Woke up just in time to then head out to the Lounge for their Feathers and Leathers party which was really good. The music was great, the vibe was great and the people were great!

Of course our weekend does not end there and we head thru to Traxx later that evening and put on a little boogey and then that was me done for the weekend!

Sunday was spent watching DVD’s, we got the promotion and honestly it was less than expected… it was quite a boring movie, the trailers looked good though.

All in all I give our weekend a 10/10, well worth it. This week it is back to the gym and back to work!

Watch out for my next video blog tomorrow, will be sure to do a bit of recording this evening!

Hugz guys!
x

Friday, October 2, 2009

And the weekend is once again nearly upon us!




Firstly to the guys in Johannesburg celebrating JHB Pride this weekend, hope you guys have loads of fun! I am sure you will, and take it easy and play it safe as I always say.

Unfortunately I am not able to make it this year due to work commitments, but, I will be here in DBN, kind of celebrating my Pride at the Lounge on Saturday evening. Myself and my boy are being body painted for the launch of a new product, not too sure what product, I think it has something to do with Tommy Hilfiger, so should be fun!

Other than that, this weekend we will be taking it easy, the last few weekends we have had party after party, so I am hoping to catch some sun this weekend and just spend it chilling and relaxing and doing nothing!

Will also be spending lots of time in the gym and getting ready for the Mr. Gay South Africa Competition.

Remember to cast your votes! SMS “GSA Tyrone Nell” To 35215 : -) I really appreciate every one’s support thus far.

Then to the people who will be partying it up at H2O this weekend, you guys have an awesome time too! Also take it easy, play it safe and have plenty fun!

Anyhow, I will be posting another video blog soon next week, it is actually really fun recording. Glad you guys liked the previous one!

And keep an eye out for my latest shoot pics! Behind the scene video coming soon!

Ty
X

Wednesday, September 30, 2009

Belief – not only what but who!

Belief is the underestimated power of achievement.

Beliefs are the building blocks of the mind. Our beliefs determine our thoughts and attitudes about life, which in turn direct our actions and achievements. By our beliefs we create our actions and finally our destiny.

Belief is an incredibly powerful state of mind. Your belief system not only defines and shapes who you are, but it also determines your potential.

Science, strictly speaking, deals only with observable phenomena. Anything that cannot be observed (either directly or indirectly) is, by definition, not a subject of scientific investigation. Scientists look for patterns among observations, which give rise to hypotheses to be tested against further observations. If a hypothesis passes these tests, it is then called a scientific theory. Yet, so many achievers in life got where they are simply because they strongly believed in themselves, their ability to reach a goal, and the fact that whatever they are wishing for is achievable and not just wishful thinking.

While you may not always get what you want, you will always get what you expect! Surprisingly, the power of belief and expectation work just as effectively on your feelings of self-doubt and limitation as they do on your thoughts of success and achievement. Think thoughts of defeat or failure and you are bound to be discouraged. Ever experienced that? The power of positive thinking is quite incredible. It is there for everyone to enjoy, yet few of us make use of it.

Belief is essentially a subjective feeling about the validity of an idea or set of facts. It is more than a mere suspicion and less than concrete knowledge. Unlike suspicion, which is based primarily on inner personal conviction, belief is founded upon assurance gained by empirical evidence and from other people. Positive knowledge, as contrasted with belief, is the clear perception of existing facts.

Want to achieve? Let your motto in life be: Creation ex nihilo (Latin for ‘Out of nothing, something’). To believe is to have the power to create. If there is something which you wish to achieve, the first step has to be belief.

Always remember this: Whether you think you can or think you can't - you are always right! Now go and create a life…

Tuesday, September 29, 2009

During School and After School… A letter to the people who used to know me…


During the time that I was still at school, I attended 2 primary schools and 4 high schools;

Mtubatuba Primary in Kwazulu Natal
Laerskool Phalaborwa Noord in the Northern Province, or rather Limpopo
Hoerskool Benvorster in Tzaneen
Bryanston High in Johannesburg
Hoerskool Frans Dutoit in Phalaborwa
And then finally matriculated from Hoerskool Montana in Pretoria

My school years were not pleasant years, quite honestly I hated school and never look back.
This is sad,  because as a youngster these are the years you should be enjoying, taking every moment in and just enjoying the freedom of having no responsibilities and almost having no care in the world.

If I think back to some of the ‘kids’ I went to school with, most of them probably would not remember me, to them I was not there…
I did not excel at sports, although I tried everything. I did not excel at academics, but I was a hard worker and at times it felt as if I were out of place, even though I was a friendly guy.

I was skinny, very white, out of proportion and was certainly not the most attractive guy at school. I was shy, would always follow the rules and always had my homework done.

At two of the schools I attended I was teased for being gay, I must have shown some signs of being gay, dunno what these are but maybe it was because I felt more comfortable talking to girls. The teasing experiences certainly stuck in my head and have certainly contributed to who I am today.

The teasing made me strive for better, I wanted to look better, I wanted to excel at what I did, I wanted to be THAT guy.
I would admire guys who were attractive, I would admire guys with good bodies, I wanted to be like them…
I would envy people who had lots of friends and I would envy people who were outspoken…
I pictured myself with the qualities of these people and dreamed of being like them…

I wanted to prove all those who thought what they thought of me WRONG…

Yes, today I am a gay male living in South Africa, what my old school friends think of that I certainly do not care, I lost a lot of them when I came out just after school while I was still NOT THAT GUY.
BUT, today I am a PROUD GAY MALE SOUTH AFRICAN and certainly not ashamed of my past as a kid, I knew I was gay from the start, but too scared to come out because of my school years, because of the way we HAD to be…
I am a healthy, fit guy with a loving family, with friends who like me and don’t tease me and I live each day with motivation and determination to reach my dreams and goals.

Friday, September 25, 2009

Fake Facebook Profiles…




One thing that annoys me is fake facebook profiles, People making contact with others and leading them on. I truly believe that there is a very large percentage of profiles on Face book which are fake, and are used by impersonators.

To those impersonating others and actually running with it, why go so low? Why not be yourself?

Looking forward to this weekend, flying to JHB this evening for the Mr. and Miss Legends crowning and then will be jamming to DJ Guyver tomorrow evening here in Durban.

Hope you all have an awesome weekend!

Take it easy : -)

Thursday, September 24, 2009

My mini weekend...

So there I go and say that I am going to have a relaxed chilled mini weekend. Yeah rite! Now I find myself with a huge hangover and having to get myself together to train later on...
The things we do to ourselves...

It was a good evening though. Started out at Blue Taboo, a salon which hosted a cocktails party, sadly we got there a little late, everyone was already way ahead of us, funny to watch though... Got persuaded into going to the Lounge, and off we went...
With R50 all you can drink, I mean, what more can I say...

Ran into some friends, some people I have not seen in ages! Was good seeing them all again...
Eugene prancing around as usual...
And Jared dancing to commercial, classic! :-)

And here I sit this morning at Traxx with my hangover, they are busy setting up for Saturday evening, which is going to be awesome, we have Guyver coming to DJ.


Think I need to get back into bed!

Wednesday, September 23, 2009

Nightmare…




Yesterday evening I had a mild evening at the gym, I was not able to push myself too hard because of my hand and I was not able to train triceps, so I stuck with Chest and Jared went on to train Triceps. We got home after gym, sat down for dinner and got ready for bed, and boy was I ready for bed! We are use to our early nights where we are usually in bed by 9pm, but this is proving more difficult now because of Jared working late and us only getting to the gym after 7pm.

I fell asleep quite easily, but had the strangest dream, and so real… it actually felt like it had happened before. It was a nightmare and I woke up at the end of the dream, you know, when the worst part is about to happen, and I was out of breath. I had Jared by my side consoling me.

The dream disrupted my sleep for the rest of the early morning hours which was not ideal, I went back into a light sleep and got up for work just after 6am.

It is raining here today, lovely cold weather, but, I still look forward to those hot summer days… You know how much I love the beach.

Tomorrow is also a public holiday here, National heritage day, or Braai day. So it is like a mini Friday today. This evening we are going for cocktails at Blue Taboo, a lovely Salon here in Durban North and tomorrow we are just going to chill out, gym and take it easy.

Oh yeah! I get to see the photos from Saturdays shoot tomorrow! : -)


Tuesday, September 22, 2009

The Durban life…




In 2007 I made my move, from the busy and sometimes quite stressful Johannesburg to the more relaxed and a little less stressful Durban. Leaving behind family, friends and a job. My modeling career was also about to start taking off, not necessarily at the speed that I would have liked it to start taking off though, but I still had a lot to learn.

I arrived in Durban with a feeling of relief, not really too concerned about what I had left behind, I would be back to visit. I had a feeling that things were going to be just fine… I had always said to my mom that I was going to live by the sea again and here I was!

Soon after moving to Durban I landed a job which I have stuck to since arriving, our offices look out over the ocean and we have the most beautiful view. Now living and working where I use to visit with my parents for holidays, it has become quite a lifestyle, the relaxed and less stressed life of Durban.

Living in Durban has not always been without stress though, I have had my moments… We have moved a few times, I have had ups and downs with my job and modeling here has proven quite difficult as the industry is very small, however, spending time on the beach on the weekends and living it up with the new friends I have made helps relieve the stresses built up.

The nightlife is a lot different to Johannesburg and Pretoria, and it took a while to get use to it. It is changing though, and there is a little bit more of a buzz happening now. We have more clubs opening and more events being held.

During holiday season, Durban is really one of the best places to be.

Anyhow, I am loving it here, I miss JHB but certainly do not miss the traffic!

Monday, September 21, 2009

NO EXPERT AT LOVE...




I am no expert at relationships and love, but I have learnt a lot. And most people probably know this or have heard something similar to this, but I thought I would share my thoughts.

Relationships need work, constant work. It is a never ending cycle of ups and downs, and WORK.
The love which exists between two people can just not be enough; however, the love is like glue which is used when keeping a relationship together when you are doing the work.

If you love someone, and I mean truly love someone, no matter how bad the fight is, how loud the screaming gets or how far your partner drives you, if that glue which you have been working on is strong enough, it will hold you together.

One does need to be careful though because when those arguments come up and when there are disagreements then there are things which can break the glue down, which makes it weaker, things such as a simple sentence, an action or ignorance. Words can cause the deepest cuts in a relationship, it can break that glue called love down. Actions such as raising your hands to your partner or inflicting pain upon yourself can wipe the glue away. And when nothing is done and all is ignored, it simply eats the glue away.

When the words: “I love you...”are used, they should be used with the deepest meaning, it should be unconditional love. No matter what, you should love that person unconditionally and you should constantly be working on that glue which keeps the relationship together.

Friday, September 18, 2009

PUZA THURSDAY!




In South Africa I have come to realize that a lot of people celebrate Puza Thursday, I was totally oblivious to this and always just thought that people called it Puza Thursday for the fun of it…

Puza Thursday is a term to describe Thursday; as in just passed the half way mark for the week, a day before the weekend starts and to celebrate it in true Puza style and drink! The ladies and sometimes guys who do this well are sometimes referred to as The Puza Queens!

In my mind the party responsible for starting Puza Thursday is our local radio station, 5FM presented by Gareth Cliff who I am sure has something to do with it all!

Anyway, so yesterday evening, being Puza Thursday Jared and I stopped by a salon in Durban North before heading to a new gym we were going to try out and to my amazement the salon was still going at 8pm and they were celebrating Puza Thursday properly! I still thought to myself: “Now that is the spirit!”. I do not know if I would want to be in the hot seat on a Thursday evening though… hm, but, they still pulled off some great styling!

We headed to the La Lucia Gym, it was already quite late, actually and hour before they were closing. The gym was empty and we could fly thru our sets without interruption, I also had a chance to hop onto the internet stations and go thru a couple of face book messages after our workout.

One thing that I am sure to try out at this gym is the Spa, it looks like they have a lot to offer… Hmmm, Massage here I come.

On our way home, Jared and I were chatting and he was not too focused on the road, he skipped some traffic lights which were out, then was so startled by that that he stopped at the green lights and when they turned red he decided to go and then the next set directly afterwards were red and he skipped those too! I was in hysterics! This is not the first time that this has happened though, just a while ago he stopped at a stop street and waited for a green light!

Jared always says that he writes the silly things I say and the words I come up with which have no meaning or make no sense in a book, well this is certainly something to add to mine!

Thursday, September 17, 2009

JOHANNESBURG HERE I COME… : - )


Chances of me flying to Johannesburg for the crowning of Mr and Miss legends on the 25th are pretty good, and this is something to get excited about… I have not been there for a while now and it will be awesome to see every one again.
Unfortunately the trip will be short spent as I cannot get off work on the Friday, and I need to be back in Durban on the Saturday for another event!

Argh! It is still raining here and I am starting to think that me wanting the beach so desperately has something to do with it! You know, Murphy’s law… I am actually contemplating going to the beach after work today no matter what the weather is like, but, that would just be stupid as I would probably end up with the flu which would not be good for the shoot on Saturday… *Ty Reconsiders*

My mom sends me the cutest video of my new born baby brother, check this out:




I have only seen him once since his birth. He is adorable, I certainly am going to make an effort to visit them sometime! SOON! I miss my family, my mom and sister and dad live in Struisbaai, which is quite a while from me, so it makes it difficult to see them. My sister is the cutest little girl too, she will grow up to be a stunner!

Looking forward to the gym tonight, we are trying out a new one this evening, hopefully it is not as busy as our current gym, it is not nice having to wait for equipment. One day we will have a gym at home…


*And Ty dreams on*

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Wednesday evening


Argh! It is Wednesday evening! Just passed the half way mark for the week and now yet another awesome weekend awaits us!
Will be chilling this Friday evening, hopefully with a glass of wine and a DVD at home, I have to be up early for the shoot on Saturday morning, that is going to be a blast.
Will probably rise at about 7h00am, need to be at the salon at 8h30 and then we will probably be on location to shoot at 10am.
We are shooting with some of Roger Saints designs! Very amped and love his clothes.

Anyhow, for the rest of Saturday we will probably head off and hang at a mates house. I am keen on hitting the beach again, as usual, catching up on my tan...

Sunday we will probably spend the day with family.

Now, although I have all of this planned out in my head, it probably won't happen like this... it is just expected. At least I am prepared for my weekend not to run according to plan.

So, let me get back to the rest of this week, two more working days to go and then it is just relax!

My training…

Sadly I never use to have a good body and had to work hard to getting it to look like this. Until I left school, I was quite a light weight myself. If only there was some magic potion one could drink to get yourself to the ideal weight you want to be with all the lines and striations in the right places.

I have always been very active and use to do athletics and swimming at school which contributed to keeping the weight off me, which was not ideal, as I almost weighed nothing. While in high school I use to gym but never took it that seriously and I actually had no idea what I was doing.

I would find myself online surfing the sites and seeing beautiful men, with amazing bodies, and I would envy them, I wished I looked like them, and this envy never ends… still today I will see a guy with an amazing body and think: ‘Geese, I wish I had that bod’.

I have been told that I have genes to thank and my fast metabolism at school for my body today. Also, keep in mind that I am still not 100% happy with my body and it is still work in progress. But so far, in just over a year my body has changed a lot! People who knew me before moving to Durban can vouch for that too.

I have put on healthy weight, I look healthier and am maintaining it all and it is all thanx to eating and training properly! And my boyfriend who really pushes me in the gym!

Now that I am taking things seriously I follow a diet which works for me as my aim is to put on weight and maintain the weight as good quality muscle. I have gone from 68kg to 74kg, I could be doing a lot better but because of the busy life style sometimes my training suffers.

I follow a weight training program which is quite flexible. We will do something like focus on doing lots of reps for the one week and then the following week doing low reps and heavier weights.

Day 1: Legs
Day 1: Chest and Triceps
Day 2: Back
Day 3: Shoulders and Biceps

Then I try and fit in abs 3 times a week.

I am not a fan of cardio, and I think with my active lifestyle and dancing on weekends it pretty much covers my cardio. lol

I eat loads of Carbs, healthy carbs and proteins. I also drink shakes to help as well.

Lots of people ask me for advice, I suggest you research places like Body for life, you need to do training and eat to suit your own needs. Our training constantly changes, and so should yours, challenge yourself.

Also, I realize I am only 21, and my body is very different to a 25 year olds, 25 year old guys who train and maintain a good body have much more mature muscle, which in my eyes is HOT.

Thursday, September 3, 2009

The Make Over Shoot – Corrupt 2009






So, shortly after the first Corrupt shoot I was advised to cut my hair, get a new style and color it darker… hmmm, this was a scary thought for me as my long blonde hair had almost become a comfort blanket, literally! It was getting way too long.

Kevern Daye, a very well acquainted hairstylist worked his magic and created a style which I fell in love with straight away! It opened my face and my eyes were more visible which I am told is one of my main assets and I also gained some more self confidence!

A shoot was dedicated to the makeover which was published in the latest issue of Gay Pages and made front cover.

It was an early Saturday morning, quite a cold morning and I headed to Kevern, the stylist to get my hair done, straight after that I rushed to the location.
For this shoot we were using the early morning sun, which there was not a lot of, but the cloud cover worked in our favor.

The Location: Durban’s Umhlanga beach, the one just before the nudist beach.
Photographer: Ryan Stewart
Stylist: Kevern Daye
Model: Tyrone Nell

A spot well chosen on the beach, it was quite private, not too many people were around at that time of the morning anyway, but for the odd person or couple walking their dogs I am sure it was quite a site for them.

We set up for the shoot and I changed into my first pair of underwear, I had to wrap a towel around my waist to cover up and while putting the underwear on I had to ensure that the towel would not drop. I would not mind, but I think the grandmother with her dog would.

A couple of great shots were captured on the sand, I was giving off natural poses and doing very well. I was very comfortable in my skin on this day, especially given that it was my first shoot with my new hairstyle. I was excited to see how it would come across on camera.

We eventually did a couple of shots in the waves, FREEEEZING! A models job is not always the most comfortable job… Anyhow, I managed, but we did not use any of the wave shots as the lighting was not rite, so I froze for nothing?? Moving on swiftly….

We moved a little bit more to a public area, it was the best area where we could shoot with rocks, a couple of families were around, and we had the holiday houses and flats rite behind us looking down at us and a public pathway which was a level higher than us. It was early morning still so not a lot of people were about.

I once again changed and got onto the rocks and Ryan started snapping away, once again capturing some really nice shots! Some kids started playing around us on the rocks, not in the way of the camera, but quite a distraction, eventually they were moving into harms way and before we knew it one of the kids was about to be taken out by a wave, the mother was sitting quite a distance away not knowing about all of this and it appeared as if she was not worried either. Anyway, Ty to the rescue, I grabbed the kid just in time and took him back to shore, out of harms way and asked them not to play on the rocks… I have always wanted to be a lifeguard deep down…

So carrying on with the shoot, a couple of minutes later on I look up to where the pathway is and the holiday flats which are raised above that and a whole crowed had gathered, I did not mind it at all and was kind of cool… One guy taking out his video camera.

We ended the shoot, I was in shivers by this point because of the cold weather and this started to show in the shots, so we wrapped it up for the day and called it a very successful day!

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