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Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Life is too short to hold grudges and not forgive...

Something that I find with people is that a lot of us, including me at times, find it difficult to let go of our egos and by this we tend not to forgive and forget.

We need to live the way, find within ourselves the peace and serenity. Most of us not living the life that we are destined for, within us we have peace and joy, but it is surrounded with the horrors and conflicts of life.

We all live life trying to please others, and everyone lives life trying to get from the one place to the next place to the next place, it is a constant chase, nobody knows how to just stop and be in the now, be in a place of peace, a place of kindness and be in a place where your not always trying to get someplace else.

All of us have the capacity at the end of any conflict to resolve it with love rather than with hatred. When one is able to forgive, or send forgiveness to where you would send hatred, anger and bitterness, you will be able to experience a turnaround in your own life.

You need to find a place in your heart where you no longer judge anyone else and find love in your heart and give that away.

The most important message you could put in your heart is that you want to feel good and one needs to learn how to be in a quiet, peaceful state rather than in a state of judgement, be in a state of acceptance, where you allow rather than where you fight and try to dominate.

Built into every storm, there is the peace that you are seeking, and in every peace that you have, there is going to be a storm. There is going to be ups and down, but just become the observer to it, enjoy it and be in that state of peace.

Always say it to yourself, over and over again: "I want to feel good!"

One thing that we do and we tend to do this very well, is hold grudges. People tend to find it difficult to forgive and forget
Life is too short to hold grudges and not to forgive, especially to those who were once close to us and who played important roles in our lives. The amount of stories I hear nowadays of loved ones being lost and old friends and family who have not been forgiven is increasing. People mourn over a loved one who was never forgiven for something stupid, something that had blown over, something that had been resolved, but they still hold that grudge against the person and regret never fully forgiving the person.
I could think of nothing worse than passing and me actually having a grudge or have never fully forgiven a loved one, how would that person feel? I would want that person to know that everything is okay, that they are forgiven and that they can move past whatever situation or circumstance caused the feelings of dislike.
I tend to find that life becomes easier and more pleasant when you forgive and forget and not hold those grudges. It is like a weight gets lifted off your shoulders. It is easier said than done, but the more you do it, the more you forgive, the easier it becomes. 
To forgive and forget is exactly what it says; forget about it, it is over, finished and gone. Never to be bought up again in the future.

Once again, life is too short to hold grudges and not forgive, rather enjoy life and live a happy one.


  1. I totally agree with you... it certainly is not easy at all. I feel like I have a huge chip on my shoulder and am finding trying to find a way to forgive a certain person and jees it's taking a long time cause it goes so deep. It's easy to utter the words and say, "hey I forgive you", but it's also important to mean it at the same time?? But depending on the situation we should never forget because, at the end of the day, those experiences build us into the person we are.

  2. Thank you for this. I totally agree with everything you have said here!